Philosophers and psychologists often talk about the moral distance we put between the self we are trying to be and the emotions we still sometimes have. Tumulty instead argues that there can be a similar moral distance between the self you want to be and the experiences you have. She explains what drives discomfort with our patterns of perception and sensation. She argues that philosophers should not assume experience is too passive to generate this kind of discomfort with ourselves, and it suggests ways for coping with this discomfort when it occurs.