We all have pivot points in our lives, where events are so overwhelming, they get pushed into our subconscious mind, only to reveal themselves later as a fear, phobia, anger, addiction, depression and lack of confidence, amongst other things. When we realize that we cannot control everything, we begin to 'stop the struggle'. When we realize that we can control our reaction to the negative events in our lives, we become empowered. As human beings we are attracted to pleasure and averted by pain - we avoid looking at the past events that are causing today's pain. This results in most people surviving life, rather than living life to its fullest. Psychotherapy, counseling and spiritual teachings can truly help us reach our full potential and live happier, productive lives. They also enable us to experience positive, and in some cases, mystical events. In this book, one of Irelands most acclaimed spiritual teachers, Derek O'Neill, shares his extraordinary personal journey through physical and emotional abuse, family alcoholism, the death of his wife, and the lessons each of these life changing events offered on his path to spiritual awakening. This memoire style book delivers a fresh perspective on how to reconcile the challenging events in our lives, so we can stop the struggle and become everything we were born to be.