Using the phrase, "You may, when...", instead of, "NO!", gives a child hope and detours power struggles. This humorously written story shows families how to stop the arguing when kids are told, "NO!". Permit yourself to pause and gain clarity before answering a question. Our first instinct may be to respond from pure emotion and that isn't usually the answer we want to give. An emotional shouting match often begins when children ask for something and hear, "NO!" Both people want control of the outcome. When adults give a clear understanding of how to gain permission, the child can make their own choice. Being reminded of our choices feels better than being given no hope for the future. This story is for families that want to stop the power struggle when, "NO!" is used. Parents can say no, without actually using that word.